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 Well, I continue to be amazed at how time marches on when nothing much changes. At work, maybe things are moving. Maybe not. It's amazing how little the needle shifts when there is no direction. And the moment there is direction, there is power - even if things take the time they take.

Here are a few things that I am grateful for:

1. Papa is well. 

2. I loved, loved, LOVED this episode of the Andrew Huberman podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KuuoLT-fq4s&t=7866s. He interviews Richard Shwartz, the founders (or one of the founders) of Internal Family Systems. This is a model of psychotherapy that examines the mind as being composed of many parts. Every part is designed to protect you and that is the part that maybe takes over when you are triggered. To heal, one must lean in completely into those parts and learn from them or at least hear them out. A good friend had recommended one of his books, "No Bad Parts". I have not read it but after watching this episode I will. I actually did the meditation exercise that is covered in this video. I tried to locate the part of me that is angry and lashes out. It is still early days but I did not lose my temper. (No Bad Parts is actually a good ethos to have for life and for work - no bad parts. Even the parts of this project that are hard and tough are not bad. Maybe they are the parts that need attention and must be heard. (It seems that a lot of things are sorted when you don't label things.)

3. I completed one outline for something. That is good. I need to finish a few things by Wednesday or Thursday the latest. I mean, I feel a lot of resistance and it would be good for the work to get easy. But I am still listing it as something I am grateful for because somewhere deep inside I do recognize it as a bit of a golden opportunity to at least explore some possibilities of transformation - if not actually transform right away. 

4. There is a home. 

5. Having black tea after so long. Quite enjoying it. 

What I learned today:

1. In a podcast on adult ADHD, the expert talked about most people being 'importance-driven'. But those who have ADHD are 'interest-driven'. 

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 Today was a tight and tough day. I had a useless call where I was told that things are not ready for me to start work. Things not being ready for me to start work seems to be the theme for the day. I just have to accept that this year has a ton of rework written in my fate. Oh Lord, just give me the strength to tackle this. I spoke sharply to an old lady. Feel bad about it. Will try and do better tomorrow.

Anyway, one way to tackle all this is to keep at least one part of the heart grateful:

1. Papa is well.

2. Wrote my impression of 'The Storied Life of A.J. Fikry' here: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/book-7-storied-life-aj-fikri-gabrielle-zevin-mukta-raut-xktjf

3. Papa had sent across rajma. That was really nice. I love rajma chaawal. I sliced up onions to go with that and ate. 

4. Cook had made a really tasty soya and aaloo sabzi.

5. Went to Starbucks for a coffee. That was good. 

What did I learn today?

1. In the Andrew Huberman podcast, he mentioned that actually learning does not happen in the time that you are trying to learn. It happens when you are sleeping or taking a break. So the way to really learn is to hardcore focus on a task and then step away for a while. 

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 That's a nice number for a day - 333. It was a long and endless day and work just keeps getting steadily mucked up - over and over again. Anyway, we lived through a day and that's that.

Here are all the things I am grateful for:

1. Papa is well.

2. There was a good chat with a colleague. It was the end of the day and there was a long and futile meeting. But there were laughs afterwards and what can one say? That's the best one can do.

3. I just finished reading the book 'The Storied Life of A.J.Fikry' by Gabrielle Zevin. I have not used the word 'marvelous' to describe a book in ages. This is it. It is delightful, sad, funny, lovely and loving.

4. Have a home to live in.

5. There was water, electricity, and wi-fi. That much is good.

What did I learn?

Hmm. I came across something that seemed very interesting. An epic novel, Praiseworthy' by Alexis Wright has an interestingly designed edition. The cover has the first sentence. Apparently the writing is so beautiful that the words were better than the one picture. 

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 I am tired. Joined back work today and there were so.many.many.calls. And there will be many many days like this through the rest of the project I think. I feel I should just lean in, and accept the days as they come. Things just feel tiring and endless. But am sure there will be pockets of joy.

Anyway, here are a few things that I am grateful for:

1. Papa is well. He did sound a little down but he is well.

2. I managed to sneak in a little workout. Am grateful for that.

3. I got to read through a business proposal today. That was a fresh change.

4. Had coffee, water, sugar (or sugar-free) and an induction stove-top to heat water and make myself coffee. That is not a small thing.

5. Have my health. 

What did I learn today:

1. Nothing cerebral. Just an experience for myself - that when your bank account is low and you really have to stay at home and pay bills and pray that no grand sudden expense comes your way, days seem long. L-O-N-G. 

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 Today has been a difficult day. My break or sojourn comes to an end and I have to start work tomorrow. But I have been dipping in and out of work in the last few days - so nothing should be a shock. But I feel that times are tough and they will only get tougher. Before I proceed, I want to share this poem I came across. I think it is sound advice.

The Room of Ancient Keys

by Elena Mikhalkova

My grandmother once gave me a tip:
In difficult times, you move forward in small steps.
Do what you have to do, but little by little.
Don’t think about the future, or what may happen tomorrow.
Wash the dishes.
Remove the dust.
Write a letter.
Make a soup.
You see?
You are advancing step by step.
Take a step and stop.
Rest a little.
Praise yourself.
Take another step.
Then another.
You won’t notice, but your steps will grow more and more.
And the time will come when you can think about the future without crying.

I have not been feeling good. I feel something strange around me. Today when I woke up from my afternoon nap. I thought I saw a couple standing at the entrance of my bedroom door - they seemed like villagers - the woman was wearing a saree and the man was wearing a shirt and a pant. And I got the feeling that one of them slit my throat. Now I feel a bitter taste in the back of my throat as if it's poison. I don't know how but a large flying insect has entered my room. My windows have been closed. I don't know where it came from. I swatted it away out of the house. But something is not feeling right. There's some type of dread.

Even so, there are still things to be grateful for. 

1. Papa is well.

2. I had a short work-out but a good peaceful one at the gym. The building gym is a small spot with very rudimentary machines. But it has large windows that I leave open to gaze at the night when I am on the treadmill or doing my stretches. The building next to mine has been razed to the ground for development for over a decade I think. Developers and financers, builders and others - seem to have washed their hands off this project many times over. So, what we have is a large and empty ground. Across that, you see the slope of a hill and a very beautiful building. At night, the flats are lit and people flit about in their homes - they look like angels dancing in the center of a flame. There is also a worn out shanty and the clothing line supports the weight of large bedsheets, tiny vests and socks and a myriad things. I often wonder about them - if your clothes feel the sun and you wear them, then you are draping some warmth, light, andpower. I don;t like handing my clothes out like the others. So I dry the clothes inside the house. I wonder if that makes me a different person from the others whose clothes dry in the sun.

3. Cook had made pancakes with strawberry and honey topping. That was tasty.

4. I was feeling a little low and...what's the word...bereft after my workout. I ordered Brra Chaap (soya chaap) from a place called Sadak Chaap. It was ex-ce-llent! Excellent! I didn't want to spend too much because it's still a few days until I get paid. But I really wanted something with a kick. Man! Did this deliver! The chaap was tender and perfectly charred in the tandoor. It came garnished with a heap of onions that was flavored. It was really well done. 

5. I found a can of Diet Coke in the fridge. (I thought I was all out!) It's quite lovely - to find some remnant of your vice suddenly.

Onwards then.

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 Here are a few things that I am grateful for:

1. Papa is well.

2. I just finished reading Nora Ephron's 'Heartburn'. It's a lovely book - in parts a tad synthetically dramatic (as is wont to be since it is written by a popular screenwriter. (She wrote When Harry met Sally, You've Got Mail, Mixed Nuts, etc.) It's a loosely fictionalized story of her second divorce from a political columnist or reporter. He cheats on her when she is pregnant and she tries to cope with it until she can't. It's interspersed with wit, humour, some precise observational humor that one enjoys, and it's lovely. (Wrote about it here: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/book-6-heartburn-nora-ephron-mukta-raut-vtpyf)

3. Had a good chat with a colleague. Sometimes when shit hits the fan and things are breaking all around you, you stay curious and detached. Just observe with the lens that one day you will write about it.

4. Regular cleaning lady came today.

5. Managed to control my temper. A little slipped out. But overall managed to control it.

What did I learn today?

1. A really good recipe of a custardish thing - you roast makhana and blend it with a banana and curd until it is thick. You could sweeten it as well. Then you slice strawberries and top it prettily and also use chia seeds. Pop it in the fridge. It is gorgeous!

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 I am going mad! I am trying to think of this novel that had Asomething like 'Ardhi' in the title...male author...Indian...contemporary novel. May or may not have been a debut novel. Drawing a blank and I'm not able to remember. Tough.

Anyway, here are a few things that I am grateful for:

1. Papa is well.

2. The temporary cleaning lady came by today.

3. Managed to go to the parlor to spruce up before an important call.

4. Enjoyed a bowl of cold watermelon and extra salted chips. So so yummy!

5. Had daal with lauki.

6. Managed a workout. (Am eating more though. Need to cut back down on all that. But it's okay. It will happen in time.)

7. Did some reading and a little bit of studying. I thought that that is something I want to keep time for - knowledge, proper studying that involve making notes, etc. It's amazing how even a few minutes helped me today. From what I am observing around me, older instructional designers are sincerely losing it. What happens when you become 50? How can you move around in such a colossal state of delusion? As the saying goes: "Don't ask what the bells toll for...they toll for thee." I am also getting older and it is quite possible that the brain will fray and decay beyond control soon. As long as the faculties remain, let's make the best of it.

8. Beautiful crescent spotted in the sky.

9. I unearthed something about me today. The cook was late and I was gripped with a strange sense of panic. It was not just routine annoyance. It was something deeper - a more primal kind of anxiety. The way a child will feel if it is hungry and there is no food source (i.e.- mother) in sight. I was missing Mummy yesterday and today I had this feeling.I need to observe this kind of emotion more closely. The transference of urgency and anxiety in this case was not justified. But I am grateful that I could detach a little bit to observe this.

10. I love this Oudh perfume I got from the Kurla store so many months ago. Am wearing it now. It's smoky, sweet, heady, and just a little bit intoxicating. I love the scent of Oudh mixed with some notes of jasmine, etc. Pure woody oudh - if I could afford the proper distilled version - I would spray my stationery with it. Gosh! I love it!

What did I learn today? Hmm...1 thing - I came across something called the Trachtenberg system. This was a system of doing fast maths - shortcuts that helped someone to calculate complex math sums quickly. This was developed by a Russian engineer Jakow Trachtenberg when he was a prisoner in a concentration camp. This is what he did to keep his mind occupied. Some things are just wow!